In this day and age, the phone is our number 1 source of communication. Apps like Tinder, Grindr, Bumble, etc. are used on a daily basis for dating. They are made for a great purpose, but it is a very scary world, and you never know what will happen. You hear these horror stories of people getting killed, raped, harassed, and kidnapped from online dating sites, and most people think nothing like that will happen to them until it does.
When downloading these apps, you always have to remember, your intentions going on the app might be different than another person’s intentions.
Im writing this blog post to inform you on some helpful steps that could make your experience with that dating app a great.
If you see someone you’re interested in and “swipe right”, you should follow these steps:
1. Try to find your date on other social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, and even google. You do this to see if 1 they are real, 2 if you find them on a platform and they have 1 photo they recently posted and no followers it could be a fake account.
2. Many people who are on these dating sites don’t wait to meet up with the person they are interested in. Waiting is a very crucial thing to do. No matter how casual the relationship is you should wait at least until you both learn things about each other. Learn to know about the person before you meet face to face.
3. This is a big one: NEVER give out your personal information until you get to know them. This means, Address, Phone number, and where you work. There are a lot of scammers on these apps. You don’t want to be spammed or harassed.
4. Now say you’ve been talking to someone for a month and you trust them a little bit, their social media is normal, they have no obvious red flags, and you’re ready to meet. The number 1 thing you have to remember is ALWAYS meet in a public place around people preferably in the daytime. Don’t have them pick you up because then you’re giving your address and giving them control of where you are going. You want to meet in a public place in case the date went terribly wrong.
5. I intensely inform you that before you meet up with your date, give a friend or a family member the address to where you are meeting with that person, and the person’s name just in case. After that you can text that family member or friend with updates on how the date is going for your security.
6. Let’s say your date did not go as planned and your scared for your safety. Always keep pepper spray on you in case of an emergency. Your safety should be your number 1 priority, so do not be afraid to call.
*** Following these steps will make you feel safer however it’s important to remain vigilant at all times, because every experience is different***